Wow. Kinda takes your breath away for a minute.
And it was these same North Carolinians who recently passed a law - the 30th such law in the country - modifying their State Constitution to ban gay marriage.
I'm asking you for the moment to ignore any feelings you have one way or the other on the matter. Full disclosure, I'm a live-and-let-live guy myself, but whatever. What 30 states have done is taken their Constitution - the document borne of the need for a recognized Supreme Law of the Land to protect its citizens from an over-aggressive government - and used it to strip rights from a group of people because of what they believe. That's a 180° variance from the true value of that document, and that saddens me way more than the gay marriage issue per sé.
Now that we've established how awful it is to use the Constitution to strip rights away, it's time to discuss the issue of gay marriage itself. Who still cares about this? It's 2012, for the love of Buddha. For you to have any dog in this fight you either need to be gay, be the family of someone who's gay, or a goddamned party planner. A bunch of fat white guys sitting around a legislative chamber looking to distract its citizens from issues of true import have no right to enact such a monstrously discriminatory law.
And hell, let's not forget that homosexuals vote, and they comprise between four and five percent of the population, depending who you talk to. If you don't think that 4% is a number worth fighting over, ask any politician that has ever courted the Jewish vote, which represents about 3% of the vote.
The whole thing bewilders me. It's a discriminatory, stupid, time-wasting effort. And one with little political upside: those lines have long been drawn. Coming out in favor of gay marriage, as did President Obama recently, was a brave choice and will shift the political landscape slightly, but staying with the script doesn't change anything. The legislators that pushed this swill down the trough of politics won't make any new friends; at best it will solidify those they already have.
Seriously. You anti-gay lawmakers have an opportunity here and now. Society is experiencing a tipping-point when it comes to this issue: we straight folk are starting to feel apathy toward the whole thing and are wondering what the fuss is still all about. Make some new friends. Here, I'll give you something face-saving you can say. How about:
I personally believe that marriage is a sacred covenant between a man and a woman, and optionally his slaves and his gun. But I do not believe that government is best served legislating this aspect of life; it is a matter best left to the religious institutions that sanctify marriage before God. The civil act of marriage should be made available to all our citizens, especially those who love Jesus.
You can also salve your conscience by knowing it's the right thing to do, but I'm not sure to what extent you give a shit about that.